Other family members can often be the missing component in your senior’s
overall care plan. But what can you do to get the help that you need?
Accept that Everyone Has a Life
Because you’re the primary family caregiver for your aging adult it’s sometimes easy to forget that other family member may not have the same ability you have to pitch in with your senior’s care. This can be difficult to accept, especially if you’ve had to sacrifice a lot to care for your senior. But when you can accept that other family members have their own burdens and obligations, it’s easier to take the help when and where you can get it.
Determine What You Really Need and Want
It’s really important that you know and understand what you truly need and want from other family members. There may be some very real and very concrete types of help that you need, such as help running errands or home maintenance. From other family members, you might primarily need and want emotional support, either for you or your senior. Knowing and understanding these distinctions helps you to get the type of help you need.
How You Ask for Help Matters
You might not realize it, but how you ask for help makes a really big difference. If your tone or the words that you’re choosing suggest that you’re trying to guilt your other family members or that you’re using sarcasm or other means of communicating that can have negative connotations, it’s bound to backfire. These types of problems tend to create chasms that are difficult to fill. Practice letting go of any lingering frustration or anger you’re feeling so that you’ve got a clean canvas to work with when you ask for help.
They’re Not Your Only Option
Other family members are often an option you might prefer, but they’re not necessarily your only option. Explore what’s available from home care providers in your area. They can often fill in the gaps for you and your aging adult in ways that you thought were only possible with other family members.
Bringing other family members into your senior’s care plan is a wonderful way to help involve them fully in your senior’s life. But that isn’t always feasible for a lot of different reasons. Try not to pressure family members into helping when they really can’t, because that doesn’t help them or your elderly family member.
If you or an aging loved-one are considering home care in Macomb MI, please contact the caring staff at True Tender Loving Care Adult Fostering LLC. Call today 1 833 TRUETLC or 1 833 878-3852.